Have you ever found that saying “I love you” just isn't enough? Sometimes you want to express your love in ways other than words, and that’s exactly what you’ll find here today – how to say “I love you” without words in 30 cute and creative ways.
“I love you!” These are the three most powerful, yet underperforming words in our language.
Couples express love through a variety of actions—a touch, a gesture of kindness or generosity, a thoughtful act. We tell one another, “Be careful.” We learn what their favorite food is. With we’re saying “I adore you” through actions rather than words.
I personally find actions to be so much more powerful than words.
There are lots of other adorable ways to say “I Love You” to that special person in your life rather than just saying those three little words!
If you are looking for ways to say “I Love You” without saying those three words, just grab one (or more) of these ideas to try.
With Valentine’s Day approaching, it’s important to remember that there are so many ways to show someone that you care! Here are just a few creative ways that you can show your affection to your better half!
Some of them may take a little more effort than others, but all are totally worth it!
Awesome Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying The Words This Valentine’s Day
1. Buy A Small, Thoughtful Gift
There’s no need to go out and spend big money on an expensive gift. Keep it small and thoughtful.
2. Surprise Lunch
Surprise your other half by showing up at work with a delicious, warm, home-cooked meal. Other ways to pull this off include meeting for a surprise lunch over lunchbreak or sending their favorite lunch with them when they leave for work.
3. Clean Out The Car
My husband HATES having a messy vehicle. Seeing how we have 3 very busy, messy boys, he loves it when I set some time aside to detail it nicely and make it look like new again. If your husband (or wife) feels similarly, this is one way how you can say “I love you” without words.
4. Let Them Pick The Movie
Even if it’s not your type of movie, let him pick what you watch every once in a while. My hubby loves watching mafia movies. They aren't usually my thing, but I watch them from time to time exactly for this reason.
5. Don't Nag
If you tend to nag a lot (don’t deny it… we all do it from time to time), set a goal to STOP nagging. No one wants to live with someone who’s a nag. It’s just not pleasant.
6. Stop Letting The Little Things Annoy You
Have you ever noticed that some of the things your significant other did while you were dating that you thought were SO cute are now some of the things that annoy you the most? Is it really worth bringing up?
7. Don't Complain
Stop complaining about the way that your partner does stuff. 50 years down the road, will this really matter?
I’m a human, you’re a human, your partner is a human. We all make mistakes and forget things, lose things or screw things up. Cut your partner some slack and forgive when they mess up. Let go of past hurts. Focus on the ways your marriage is loving and good.
9. Go For A Walk Together
Go for a walk through the neighborhood, down the street or drive somewhere and go for a walk on a trail. Don’t worry about time – just be together.
10. Leave A Love Note On The Mirror
Write your loved one a secret note on the mirror to greet them first thing in the morning (or late at night). Writing on the mirror too messy? You could use sticky love notes like these and stick them to the mirror.
11. Compliment Them
Men and women both enjoy receiving compliments. Find something different each week that you respect and love about your partner and tell them about it.
12. Send A Flirty Text
Send your significant other a flirty text in the middle of the day to let him know you’re thinking of him and can’t wait for him to get home from work (trust me – it will make him smile).
13. Do A Hobby Your Partner Loves
Even if it’s not something you particularly enjoy doing.
My husband loves going for long bike rides – the longer, the better.
I would much rather spend 2-3 hours on a weekend hiking (or a lot of other things) than biking, BUT since it’s something that is so important to my husband, I set aside my preferences here and there to do what he enjoys just because he loves it and I love him.
14. Give A Foot Rub
Who doesn't love a good foot rub? Give your partner a nice foot rub to relieve the stress of the day. Giving foot rubs maybe not your thing? get one of these instead.
15. Make A Meal Using Their Favorite Dish or Ingredient
Does your partner have that a dish or food that they can never get enough of? Make a delicious meal using it. My husband has several, including avocados, broccoli, and cilantro-lime rice so I use those ingredients regularly.
16. Turn Off Your Devices
Speaking as the one in my marriage who LOVES using my computer or phone nearly all day long, it sucks to try to have a conversation with someone while competing with a screen.
Show your spouse respect by giving your full, undivided attention. When the two of you are talking, put your phone down, turn off the TV, and get away from the computer screen. They are more important than anything on that screen.
17. Initiate Once In A While
If you always wait for your spouse to start intimate time, try turning the tables and being the initiator for a while – your partner will LOVE the surprise!
18. Do The Stuff Neither Of You Wants To Do.
Someone has to deal with the insurance company, prepare the taxes, call the handyman, and deal with the strange noise the car is making. Taking it on rather than passing it off speaks volumes. I encourage you to step up.
19. Reaffirm Your Commitment.
Commitment is a couple's will to stay together. Commitment is about walking through your challenges together until you get to the other side and then enjoying the happy times together.
If you're the type to sling threats or blame when angry then go back to #8 and reaffirm your commitment to your partner by weathering the storms together as a team.
20. Be The First One To Offer An Olive Branch After A Fight.
Don't think for a second that the first person to give in is admitting fault or has lost the argument. Marriage isn't a war. It's not about who wins (or doesn't win). It takes courage, love, and generosity to be the first to reach out.
My husband is so much better at this than I am, and I'm grateful for that because it makes US stronger.
21. Recognize And Show Gratitude For Your Partner's Attempts To Show Love.
We all want to feel noticed and that our actions and intentions matter. The happiest couples are those who notice and respond when their partner makes efforts. It doesn't take much – a smile, a “thank you”, or even a hug makes a huge impact.
22. Do Small Things To Make Life Easier
A great way to demonstrate to your partner how to say “I love you” without words is to make small efforts to make life just a little easier for your other half.
Leave enough gas in the car (or better yet, fill up the tank), enough hot water for a shower, enough milk for coffee. Some might call it being considerate. I'm calling it being loving.
23. Be patient.
A lot of times that we go to the car as a family, my husband sends us out to the car while he finishes getting ready to go. We end up sitting in the car while he's inside the house. Waiting. Yep, it can be annoying.
It may not be convenient, but sometimes you just have to wait. Skip the eye roll or foot-tapping that says, what took you so long? Take a few deep breaths. Relax.
24. Don't Keep Score.
You did this. Your partner did that. And so that scorecard goes. Go above and beyond the call of duty. Not your trash? Throw it away – in the end, who cares?
25. Stop A Fight In Its Tracks.
Staying calm when your spouse is getting upset is a powerful method for how to say “I love you” without words. It took me much longer to learn this than I wish (I'm talking YEARS). But, once I started learning how to stay calm when he was amped up and upset it made a huge difference in our relationship.
26. Show Your Support.
Your spouse wants to go to cooking school or start a new exercise program or write a book. Your response: that's great! Wow, what a powerful method for how to say I love you without saying it.
27. Connect With Each Other.
Maybe that means going on a vacation together. Or maybe a date night out or date night at home. It doesn't need to be expensive. You could do puzzles together, play a game, or try your hand at using Conversation Starter cards.
I particularly like this game for couples to play to get to know each other deeper and start meaningful conversations when it feels like your marriage has gone bland.
28. Find The Humor.
Look for the humor in those um…annoying behaviors. What's not to love about someone who second-guesses everything they buy?
29. Learn How to Show Him Respect.
I remember my husband yelling at me in the middle of an argument (early in our marriage) that I didn't respect him. At the time, I had NO IDEA what that meant – what he was really saying.
I have since learned that showing our husbands respect is vitally important. This is the book I read after that fight that taught me the true difference between love and respect and how to approach them both. It was invaluable.
30. Make Your Relationship A Priority.
Marriage doesn't stay sweet all on its own, year after year. Have a date night, a weekend getaway, keep work hours within bounds. And for goodness sake, when you're together, turn off your phone.
While saying “I Love You” is always a great idea, sometimes it’s just as fun to find other ways to let them know how you feel! I hope this list of ideas for how to say “I love you” without words will help you get creative this Valentine's day and all year long!
What are some ways that you’ve shown your better half that you love them on Valentine’s Day?
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